IF WE WERE HAVING COFFEE

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IF WE WERE HAVING COFFEE

It's time to celebrate the end of November, Summer is on its way down here in Australia - so, why not share a lovely end of Spring virtual cup of coffee with me while I update you on what's been going on in my life lately. I love a good 'Taking Stock' blog post, so I hope you'll humour me and sit a while as I share my news.

THE VIEW FROM MIDLIFE MOUNTAIN

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INTRO

Today is the very last of my Social Saturday guest posts and I have the lovely Lisa Ricard Claro to send us off with a great post about the lessons she learned from downsizing her home to something more manageable for Midlife. She's also offering a fabulous prize to three lucky readers at the end of the post - how great is that? So, without further ado, let me pass you over to Lisa.

CAN BEING SAD BE GOOD FOR YOU?

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HAPPINESS AND SADNESS

I write a lot about happiness - it's a topic that I'm very fond of. I'm learning that we create our own happiness and it's important to take responsibility for how we choose to react to the circumstances and people in our lives. However, there's two sides to every coin and I'm learning that it's okay to be sad too.

CREATING BOUNDARIES IN MIDLIFE

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LEARNING TO CREATE BOUNDARIES

Boundaries were a whole new realm for me when I discovered them a few years ago. I think most of what I've learned has come from Brené Brown and her thoughts on having the courage to draw a line in the sand and say "No" - even when we know it will disappoint others. To place value on our own needs and health for a change.

I had always believed that pleasing others was the ultimate goal and if that came at a cost, then so be it. Understanding that there are areas of my life I'm responsible for and others that are not mine to carry, is still a learning curve. Working for approval and to make everything "good" is a hard motivator to give up - but I'll get there.

I've learned to define my boundaries by a) What I'm responsible for and b) What I'm NOT responsible for and I thought I'd share how I'm breaking that down at the moment.

IT'S BEEN FOUR YEARS AND TIME FOR A CHANGE

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WHERE HAS THE TIME GONE?

I started this blog in November 2014 - four years ago! It seems like only yesterday I had the whim to write my thoughts down somewhere. I had no idea where to start, didn't bother doing all the research and soul searching that others did before they began blogging. I just picked the cheapest, simplest blogging format out there and jumped right in.

ANOTHER YEAR OLDER - ANOTHER YEAR WISER?

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HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME

The world has turned, a year has passed and it's time for another birthday. I should be older and wiser than I was in November last year, so what have I learned in the last 12 months? It feels like the answer is "not much", but there have been a few things I've absorbed and I thought I'd share them - lessons can be challenging, but if we use them to grow and develop then they weren't for nothing.