SPEAK GOOD THINGS ABOUT YOURSELF

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DON'T BE YOUR OWN WORST CRITIC

It is so very easy to find negative things to think about myself. I am by far my own worse critic and I have a litany of things I criticize myself with - from my looks, to my personality, to my failures as a wife and mother, to how much I talk - and even how I sound when I talk (how ridiculous is that!)

Here's an example....
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REMEMBER TO TELL PEOPLE HOW SPECIAL THEY ARE

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COMPLIMENTS STRENGTHEN CONNECTIONS

As time has passed I've noticed that I don't meet new people as often as I used to. One of the benefits of making conversation with people you don't know all that well is that you tend to say nice things to each other - like "that's a lovely outfit" or "you have great kids" because you are making connections and being complimentary is a great way to make a positive impact.

 With old friends we tend to take a lot of that for granted and it seems less common to give or receive a compliment. 
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MY MIDLIFE VALENTINE

Midlife love - when two opposites attract and then figure out how to navigate life together
Our engagement in 1982 and still together 35 years later

IN THE BEGINNING

I married my lovely husband in February 1983 - a VERY long time ago! We were (and still are) complete opposites but that didn't phase us in the slightest - love conquers all, our differences compliment each other and one's strengths offset the other's weaknesses ......or so we thought.
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HOW TO STOP BEING THE INVISIBLE WOMAN IN MIDLIFE

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WHEN MIDLIFE WOMEN BECOME INVISIBLE

Along with "looking good for your age" comes another Midlife phenomenon - becoming invisible. I've seen many comments about this in regard to men not seeing 50+ women, but it's not just men who don't see us, it's shop assistants, clothing manufacturers and employers.

Why are Midlife women so undervalued by our society? When did the cult of youth take over from the wisdom of middle age?
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"FOR HER AGE" AND OTHER MIDLIFE DISCLAIMERS

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HAVE YOU HEARD THE "FOR HER AGE" TAG?

I was checking my new outfit in the mirror the other morning as I was getting ready for another day at the office, and I thought "I'm looking pretty good for someone my age". Bang! there is was.....the dreaded Midlife disclaimer "for my age".

I think we're all guilty of applying it to ourselves. We're looking really good, but because we don't look like we did in our 20's, we think we're doing okay "for our age". Why do we judge ourselves so harshly?
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FOR THE LOVE OF CATS

for the love of cats - burmese and scottish fold

CAT CONFESSIONS

I have a confession to make..........I am a cat person..........I'm not sure how this actually came about because once upon a time I didn't know I was a cat person - if asked, I would have claimed to be a dog lover. I spent the first half of my life completely unaware of the appeal of cats. I grew up in a 1970's home with the prerequisite dog and a budgie (all Australian kids have a budgie at some stage) and it was the same with all my friends - no-one had cats or kittens.

Then, a couple of years after we were married a random kitten turned up at our door and we were hooked. Kittens would have to be one of the cutest elements of God's creation (I am so smitten with them that I have not one.......but THREE Pinterest boards dedicated to them!) It turned out that the "homeless" kitten we adopted for three weeks belonged to our next door neighbours - we never thought to check something so obvious. It went home to their place and before we knew it, we had a kitten of our own to replace him/her. From there it has snowballed to never being without a cat.....

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WHAT MAKES A GREAT FRIEND?

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WHAT MAKES A GREAT FRIEND?

I'm sure we've all had "that friend" who turned out to be not quite as great as we'd hoped they would be, and we ask ourselves what went wrong? To have a good friend let you down, or betray your trust, or just not be there when you expected them to be, is one of life's biggest disappointments. When we invest time and emotion into creating a friendship, only to have it go pear shaped, it kills us a little bit inside.
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MY WORD FOR 2015 ~ RELEASE

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WHY A WORD OF THE YEAR?

After giving it a bit of thought, I've decided to choose a Word of the Year as inspiration for the months ahead. I finally settled on my word for 2015, and it will be 'RELEASE'. I thought about 'detach' but (as my good husband advised), 'release' has more positive connotations and it can be applied to most situations that I find myself getting overly embroiled in.
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CHOOSE YOUR ATTITUDE

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LIFE'S NOT ALWAYS SUNSHINE AND RAINBOWS

I've always been in awe of the "Little Miss Sunshine"s of the world. Some people progress through life easily with great things happening regularly with life's road being a smooth and trouble free journey. I can understand how these people are able to be happy all the time, but there are also people who manage to have a smile for the world despite their life's ups and downs.

Life regularly has moments that suck - work starts off fine and then disgruntled people get in your face, you go shopping and can't find an outfit that remotely suits your age or stage, you feel grumpy, you look frumpy, people ignore you, someone pushes in front of you and so it goes on. Our life's little dramas interrupt how we think things should be and we react accordingly.
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A TASTE OF MIDLIFE DEPRESSION

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WHEN LIFE TAKES A TURN

Last year parts of my life imploded before my eyes. My husband, who I had been supporting financially since his redundancy 3yrs before, decided he didn't want to be married any more and I was looking down the barrel of starting life over again with just my cat and a part time job. The scary thing is that there were parts of that scenario that were strangely appealing.
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