AN ODE TO MY LOVELY DAUGHTER

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mother and daughter at my 50th

A BIRTHDAY BRINGS BACK MEMORIES

It's our daughter's birthday today so I thought I'd do a shout out to what a fabulous young woman she has become. I am so proud of her and the journey she has been on and that she is so happy and settled where she is now (although she knows I'd like her to be closer to home!)

ANTICIPATION VS REALITY

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ANTICIPATION

Anticipation is often better than the gift itself

 is a saying in our household (maybe because we never have a lot of money so our gifts are never overwhelming). It seems to be a constant in my life that I get more pleasure out of anticipating a gift or an event than I do out of the actual event itself.

"I don't snore"

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SNORERS OF THE WORLD

We had an interesting conversation at work last week about snoring spouses. My boss's wife snores and my co-worker and I both have husbands that snore. The funny thing is that none of them truly believe that they make any sound at all while they are asleep.

TURNING OFF THE COMMENTS ON MY BLOG

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COMMENTS AND COMPARISONS

I've come to realize over time that I am a bit of a performance freak. I base my self esteem on how others see me and whether I have positive interactions. That's a ridiculous gauge for measuring my self-worth and one I need to do something about! It's time to take a step back and find my sense of self from within rather than from others.

DON'T BE A LIGHT SUCKER

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WHAT'S A DARK SUCKER?

A few years ago I heard about the Dark Sucker Theory where, in a nutshell, the idea is that electric light bulbs don't give off light, rather, they suck in the dark. This is of course a load of bollocks, but the idea that something can suck in the dark and leave light in it's place is an interesting concept.

The reverse would also be true, that a Light Sucker would suck in light and leave darkness behind. I took it a step further and thought about how this applies to certain people I've come across in life.

IT WAS ONE OF THOSE MARCH DAYS...

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ONE OF THOSE MARCH DAYS

I saw this quote from Great Expectations and it struck a chord with me because it reflects the stage of life that I feel myself in. Maybe midlife is "one of those March days"......

SPEAK GOOD THINGS ABOUT YOURSELF

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DON'T BE YOUR OWN WORST CRITIC

It is so very easy to find negative things to think about myself. I am by far my own worse critic and I have a litany of things I criticize myself with - from my looks, to my personality, to my failures as a wife and mother, to how much I talk - and even how I sound when I talk (how ridiculous is that!)

Here's an example....

REMEMBER TO TELL PEOPLE HOW SPECIAL THEY ARE

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COMPLIMENTS STRENGTHEN CONNECTIONS

As time has passed I've noticed that I don't meet new people as often as I used to. One of the benefits of making conversation with people you don't know all that well is that you tend to say nice things to each other - like "that's a lovely outfit" or "you have great kids" because you are making connections and being complimentary is a great way to make a positive impact.

With old friends we tend to take a lot of that for granted and it seems less common to give or receive a compliment. 

MY MIDLIFE VALENTINE

Midlife love - when two opposites attract and then figure out how to navigate life together
Our engagement in 1982 and still together 35 years later

IN THE BEGINNING

I married my lovely husband in February 1983 - a VERY long time ago! We were (and still are) complete opposites but that didn't phase us in the slightest - love conquers all, our differences compliment each other and one's strengths offset the other's weaknesses ......or so we thought.

HOW TO STOP BEING THE INVISIBLE WOMAN IN MIDLIFE

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WHEN MIDLIFE WOMEN BECOME INVISIBLE

Along with "looking good for your age" comes another Midlife phenomenon - becoming invisible. I've seen many comments about this in regard to men not seeing 50+ women, but it's not just men who don't see us, it's shop assistants, clothing manufacturers and employers.

Why are Midlife women so undervalued by our society? When did the cult of youth take over from the wisdom of middle age?