A couple of years ago I wrote a post about feeling invisible in Midlife - only to find I have had a complete about face and don't feel in the slightest bit invisible anymore - it's amazing what a change of perspective can do for your confidence!
LEARNING A LESSON
I mentioned in there that I felt it would be hard competing with young attractive women when it came to looking for a new job. I couldn't have been more wrong! I found out (once I took the risk and put myself out there) that experience and confidence is just as attractive to a would-be employer as youth and vitality. In fact, a lot of employers prefer a well presented older woman because we are reliable and have a great work ethic.
BEAUTIFUL INSIDE AND OUT
I've come to realize that being seen has a lot to do with the face you present to the world. I don't mean that we get seen more if we are dolled up and made up, I mean our attitude and how it reflects from our face is what makes all the difference. If we are happy and positive and living life with zest, then that shows - it's attractive to other people and we aren't invisible. Bright, sparkly people attract notice and people want to help you in a store because you look like someone who would be pleasant and easy to deal with. Grumpy faced, miserable middle aged women are ignored (and maybe rightly so!)
I love that life has taken me on a journey of discovery that is moving me forward and making me less "invisible". I'm working on my attitude towards myself and towards others. Having a face that shines sunbeams and looks lovely is certainly something I aspire to and it is the antidote to the invisible woman phenomenon. If all midlife women took the time to speak life and light into the world we could change the whole perception of how others see us and the idea of being invisible wouldn't cross our minds. What a challenge!
See you tomorrow for J - which is for the Job Changes.