A-Z Challenge ~ Why Midlife's Fabulous ~ Marriage


When you've been married for a very long time you come to realize how important it is to invest in the person who you made a life long vow to. It's so easy to take each other for granted and to let small annoying things drive us crazy. It's easy to "take the mickey" out of someone you know so well. It gives us a smile at the time but doesn't do anything to build up the person we love.


My husband never reads my blog, (well, he may have once or twice when I suggested he have a look!) He's not particularly bothered about what I put in here because he knows that I wouldn't be using it as a tool to attack him or our marriage. In the past there would have been times when we made jokes at the other's expense, but as the years have gone by, we find that we're kinder to each other and we don't need that aspect of humour in our lives. Mocking other people just isn't as funny as I used to think it was.

If you don't have your spouse's back and they don't have yours, then there is no safe place to fall. There is nowhere to go when your feelings are hurt or when someone is mean spirited or using you as comic relief. I really need to be built up and not torn down at this stage of life - and the least I can do is show the same courtesy to my husband who I love more than anyone else.


My aim for the years ahead is to speak life (and light) into my marriage. There will be times when I forget and slip back into old habits, but those moments are getting fewer and further apart. I don't want to be poisoning the life I share with the one person who has stuck by me through thick and thin. I don't want to respond in kind if he slips up and says something that I feel is hurtful. I want us to be each other's cheer squad and know that we have each other's backs. 

How do you speak about your loved one when they're not around?

don't use words to wound your spouse - choose to speak light and life instead

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  1. Thank you. I loved this. I too am in a great marriage. It has had its rocky moments, but we've loved each other enough to work through the difficult patches, and we are now approaching our 50th Wedding Anniversary! Woohoo! Have a blessed Easter!

  2. Beautiful post. My husband is my best friend. I love laughing with him. Are we perfect? NO. But we are there for each other. I like what you said, "speak life (and light) into my marriage"... words of wisdom.

    Trudy @ Reel Focus
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  3. Always use kindness. Thanks for linking up with #BloggingGrandmothersLinkParty

  4. I'm happy that you have such a fabulous marriage. Kudos for all that do. I just found out yesterday that my hubs is having another emotional affair with plans to consummate it. Same girl. Oy vey..... life is a real kick in the pants sometimes.

  5. Beautiful post. A while back, I realized I was in it for the long haul (we've been married 25 years) and I wanted the rest of our days to be the best they can be. It has taken effort and work - but the rewards are worth every minute of work.



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  6. Thank you for sharing this post at the #BloggingGrandmothersLinkParty. I shared it on Facebook, Google+, Pinterest, and Twitter.

  7. Loved this post - I sometimes get a hard time from some friends because of how I speak about my beloved. They say that there's no way things are that good between us - well, they are. He's my rock and my best friend.

    Pamela @ Highlands Days of Fun

  8. Very nice post.
    I used to be super loyal and never say a bad word about my husband to outside people. These days when I'm irritated as h*** I don't hide it, make a snarky comment and move on.

  9. Fantastic points, Leanne. I love the idea of speaking life!

  10. This is so lovely and you make some really great points Leanne. My husband and I are second time arounders and will be married 19 years on 19th. It is so important to be each other's cheer squad which is a perfect way to say it thank you. Thanks for the reminder I'm sure all marriages need work but also lots of love and caring for each other

  11. My workmates at my last job couldn't believe we had been married 20 odd years - hubster worked for the same organisation so they knew both of us, and saw that we still adore each other after all this time. I find it sad that apparently we are the exception rather than the rule!

  12. Thank you for linking up at #TheBloggingGrandmothersLinkParty.

  13. Thanks for the good reminder--including the final question "How do you speak about your loved one when they're not around?"

  14. Great post. My marriage is awesome. Thanks for hosting and I hope you are have a great week.


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