The A-Z Challenge ~ Why Midlife's Fabulous ~ Owning Who You Are


The world we live in tries to tell us how we should look, how we should think, how we should feel, and how we should behave. Often a shiny wrapper on the outside does its best to cover a not so lovely inside. People are so busy trying to impress others and trying to be what others expect that they forget who they truly are - or maybe they never found out in the first place.

Midlife has taught me that you lose yourself if you try to be all things to all people. If you squeeze yourself into a box that suits someone else but diminishes who you are then you lose every time. We are all unique and we all have so much to offer once we find our centre and ground ourselves in owning who we really are.


If you don't know who your authentic self is, then maybe it's time to take a step back. Time to sit down and think about what is important to you, what resonates with your heart. Stop seeing yourself as a wife, or a mother, or a provider, or a hail-good-fellow (when you feel like the opposite). Start seeing yourself for who you know lives inside - you may lose people along the way when you start being honest with yourself and with them. They may not like "the new you" who is actually "the real you" who has been in hiding. Ultimately, that's their loss.


Let's all start loving and respecting ourselves enough to be honest with the world and stay true to our values and not be blown here and there by whichever breeze happens to blow our way. Starting today, let's be our authentic selves - you might find you like that person a whole lot more than your thought - I know I'm coming to like myself more now that I'm rediscovering who I really am.

Have you figured out who you are yet?

you can't go through life worried about what everybody thinks of you

If you'd like to read more about Owning Who You Are you can go HERE or HERE.

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  1. I was always trying to be everything to everyone, until I got hurt when I realised not everyone wants what I have to offer. Now I realise that it's OK and I am there for those who need it and always there for me. #teamIBOT

  2. Midlife is a good time to find yourself again after you've lost yourself while bringing up the kids - well I don't think that happens to everyone but it did happen to me. My fault entirely.
    Offspring#Lexicon of Leaving

  3. I can't say I know myself completely as I think it would be nice for myself to unfold right to the end. But in discovering myself, I certainly like myself and my life better.

    Suzy at Someday Somewhere - Open Doors

  4. Another great post, Leanne!
    I am not sure I've got myself entirely figured out, especially since I "gave up" my career to focus on my "baby". On the other hand I'm happy to say rather than to please anybody else, I do what I want!

  5. I definitely think we lose who we are over the years and midlife is a time when we get that back... if we dare.

  6. It's a great time to find ourselves again. I'm really enjoying your A-Z challenge.

  7. Characters in novels and film have flaws and we love them anyway (sometimes even more so because of their flaws), yet we try to hide our own shortcomings from others, thinking our flaws make us less lovable. Ironic.

    Trudy @ Reel Focus
    Food in Film: Old 96er

  8. I wish I had learned this when I was younger, however, now in midlife is probably the perfect time to own who I am. I have more life experience and feel more confident within myself to actually accept who I am and deciding that I like her. Have a great day Leanne. x

  9. One of the great things about my 50's (which I am not past) is that I finally figured out who I was. And I'm pleased to say "blogger and photographer" are two of those things. Great post, and I am looking forward to your Aging Parents post (although mine are both long gone). Alana ramblinwitham.blogspot.com

  10. Thank you Leanne for attending the #WednesdayAIMLinkParty. I shared your post on Facebook, Google+, Pinterest, and Twitter.

  11. I am trying to be my authentic self but the family is making it nearly impossible. They liked me being mom and they still want me to be mom even though they're all grown up. I'm fighting an uphill battle here. LOL

  12. This is one of the great joys of growing older. For me, it has become much easier to stay true to myself and to worry less about others opinions. WeekendsInMaine


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