HAVING AN EPIPHANYWhen I reached Midlife I had an epiphany of sorts as far as my relationship with myself went. I stopped seeing myself as middle aged, and settled and stuck, treading water in the same place, and started seeing a whole new person - someone who could stand alone if need be, someone who had a lot to offer, someone who had a brain and a heart, who had good friends and a great family network, who was a person in her own right......and I liked that person a lot.
THE RESULT OF LIKING MYSELFWhen I started liking myself and accepting myself, happiness seeped in. I couldn't force happiness into my life, it came as a byproduct of discovering my own worth and finding contentment in myself. Happiness didn't burst into my life with this discovery, it gradually crept in over time. It was nice to feel that way based on acknowledging my own self worth, rather than it being dependent on other people and how I thought they perceived me.
There is a saying "Don't put the key to your happiness in another person's pocket" and another that says "Don't let your happiness depend on something you may lose". I was doing both of these things because I didn't have the confidence to take responsibility for my own happiness. You can't expect others to make you happy - it's not fair on them and it's not fair on yourself, you have to step up and see your own value.