When you've been married for a very long time you come to realize how important it is to invest in the person who you made a life long vow to. It's so easy to take each other for granted and to let small annoying things drive us crazy. It's easy to "take the mickey" out of someone you know so well. It gives us a smile at the time but doesn't do anything to build up the person we love.
My husband never reads my blog, (well, he may have once or twice when I suggested he have a look!) He's not particularly bothered about what I put in here because he knows that I wouldn't be using it as a tool to attack him or our marriage. In the past there would have been times when we made jokes at the other's expense, but as the years have gone by, we find that we're kinder to each other and we don't need that aspect of humour in our lives. Mocking other people just isn't as funny as I used to think it was.
If you don't have your spouse's back and they don't have yours, then there is no safe place to fall. There is nowhere to go when your feelings are hurt or when someone is mean spirited or using you as comic relief. I really need to be built up and not torn down at this stage of life - and the least I can do is show the same courtesy to my husband who I love more than anyone else.
How do you speak about your loved one when they're not around?
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See you tomorrow for N which is for New Experiences.