I have spent many years surrounded by people and their drama. It sucks you in and you find yourself swimming in this constant stream of chaos where you never know when the next crisis is going to arise.
DRAMA AT WORK
No matter what job I'm in, there always seems to be someone who has to be the Drama Queen (or King in the case of my old boss!) They come to work and pour out their issues and you are their captive audience. They lurch from one bad decision to the next and then wonder why they are stressed, or upset, or angry.
I used to sympathize or at least try to look like I was interested in their problems. But, I'm getting older and wiser these days and I choose to not engage with these people and their mini-dramas. I won't be their audience and the less I encourage them, the less I have to listen to it all.
Then there's the facebook posters who have something to "share" with the rest of us regularly about how they have been hard done by, how they haven't received what they believe they're entitled to, how the government hasn't met their expectations, how they know everything and the rest of us have it wrong etc etc. I am so tired of all their issues and their whinging - my "unfollow" button has been used several times recently because I just don't need to know about their latest litany of complaints.
WHAT I'M LEARNING
Another big lesson that midlife has taught me is that I don't need to be a part of other people's drama and their "Me Me Me" attitude. Life should be about getting along together, putting other people's needs in front of your own - and knowing what a need is, compared to an expectation that life owes you lollipops and fairy floss. It's about being kind to each other and giving grace and the benefit of the doubt.
Now days I give the drama queens (and kings) a wide berth. If my radar goes off because negativity and dramatics are happening in my near vicinity, then I move along as fast as I can in the opposite direction. I want to have a full and rich life that embraces acceptance and sharing the journey. There are so many fabulous people out there who are looking for the same thing - I want to spend time with those people and grow into a better person because of it. I want to be part of the lives of people I admire and who are making the world a better place - and hopefully, it has the added benefit of making me a nicer person just by association!
How do you handle the Drama in your life?
See you tomorrow for M which is for Marriage.