FINDING DELIGHT IN DABBLING - IT'S ALL ABOUT ENJOYING SMALL PLEASURES

Retirement doesn't have to be filled with big adventures. There are so many little pleasures to dip your toes into and dabble.

BECOMING A DABBLER

It took me a while to realize that retirement doesn't have to be a competition, or about getting a big "bang for your buck". For some of us it can be all about the little things....dabbling in this and that, and exploring small interests that catch our eye. Today I'm sharing a few of the little delights I've been dabbling in now I have more time to invest in what brings me joy....

CREATING

I'm not an artist....but I love to create in ways that make me happy and limit my self-judgement. I've been dabbling in all sorts of different areas to see what I enjoy and what feels "arty" to me. Just to name a few, I've tried my hand at stained glass leadlighting (and loved it), I've been a fan of colouring-in for decades, I've tried paint by numbers, calligraphy, neurographic art, and my favourite - collaging.

Finding a creative outlet has been such fun for me - I always saw myself as a logical person who didn't have any artistic skills at all. In retirement I'm discovering what I can and can't do, I'm not a person who draws, or who paints, or who does pottery....but I love being able to create something with art that feeds my soul and makes me smile.

non-artistic creativity
My Neurographic Art, Collaging, Colouring-In

WALKING

I'm not a runner....but I love to walk every day. I've tried running many times over the years, but for some reason I'm useless at it. I was always last in running races at school, and loathed cross-country running. I feel like I run like a drunk giraffe and get all hot and sweaty with absolutely no joy in the experience. But I enjoy walking - not hiking, not endurance walking....just walking for pleasure.

I love my morning walk around the neighbourhood - I've met so many people and feel so connected to where I live because I'm out and about. I never take my phone, I don't take photos, I don't listen to music, I just enjoy the sights and sounds, the friendly chats and smiles, and the fresh air and sunshine. I don't lose weight, but I feel healthier for being outside and appreciating the beauty of where I live. And I love it when my husband comes along for a stroll, or when the grandgirls come for a walk to the park.

a walk to the park

BLOGGING

I'm not an influencer....but I love to write about my thoughts and experiences here on my blog. I started blogging at the end of 2014 and thought it would be a very short-lived hobby, but it's turned out to be an unexpected blessing. I pop in and out, write when something engages my thought processes, visit other bloggers, learn from them, and gain friends all over the world.

Blogging has introduced me to the concept of Midlife and that this is a great time to be alive. So many women are writing about their interests and their lives - it inspires me to connect with them, and it also lets me share my journey and the lessons I've learnt along the way. It's a win/win dabble that engages my heart and mind. It's even brought me a little bit of pocket money, and some recognition in magazines and the newspaper - my tiny little bit of "fame"!

magazine and newspaper articles on cresting the hill
A feature in the newspaper, and an article in a Seniors' magazine

READING

I'm not an author....but I love to read. So many bloggers have novels or how-to guides running around in their heads and a burning desire to write them. Me....not a single idea. I feel like there's so much out there to read and enjoy - and I'm happy to let others craft books while I sit back and enjoy reading them.

I'm not a book buyer (I'm too frugal) but I source more than I need from the library and online. I love discovering an author with a series of novels that I can immerse myself in. I get so excited when I find several stories or an ongoing one that keeps referring back to previous characters and continues to develop them. And I also can't resist the occasional self-help book on areas of my life I'm keen to improve on. 

COFFEE-ING

I'm not a foodie....but I love catching up with friends and family at a cafe for coffee or lunch. I've realized that I'm not an appreciater of fine food or fine dining. My favourite food in the whole world is hot chips. I will often base what meal I order on whether it comes accompanied with chips. I can see all the foodies shaking their heads in horror - but it is what it is, and I'm okay with that. I look at all the money I save (and the weight I don't gain) by not eating out at restaurants on a regular basis.

That being said, I still love to go out for a coffee date with my husband, or a friend, or my kids, or my mum. I enjoy sitting in a cafe sipping a coffee and maybe even eating some cake (or some chips) or even a light lunch. It feels like I've had an outing, it gives me time to chat and be social, and it only takes an hour or two - and that's enough socializing for me in a day!

coffee dates with the family
coffee dates with my daughter, D-I-L, mum, husband, and grandgirls

SCOOTING

I'm not a motorcycle revhead....but I love sitting on the back of a motorbike or scooting around on my 60th birthday present Vesper-look-alike moped. Buying a scooter seemed like a bit of a frivolous idea initially, but the more I thought about it, the more I realized that it was something I'd wanted to do for many years, but the time was never right.

Reaching an age where I was still young enough to learn a new skill, and confident enough to take myself out onto the road on two wheels, well... it just seemed like the right time to have a go. Finding the perfect scooter in the perfect colour (and not needing a motorcycle licence to ride it) was the icing on the cake, and having a big birthday to celebrate was the final tick of the boxes. I've loved every moment of riding it, I could even ride it when my hip was failing and after it was replaced because of the way you sit with your legs together - another bonus!

Motorbike and scooter
On the back of one and solo-ing on the other

WHAT ABOUT YOU?

Do you have big commitments or are you learning to be a dabbler? Is dabbling just killing time or does it serve a bigger purpose? I loved this quote from Edith Wharton that ties in well with Cresting the Hill and a little dabbling...
She often climbed up the hill - Edity Wharton quote

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  1. Hi Leanne I think it is great to include a variety of activities in our life. I was never a runner at school or athletic in anyway so it was a surprise that I found at 50 I could run and enjoyed it. For me, it is all about doing what we love whether that's walking (which I love doing around the lake where I live) or running, creating or cooking, socialising or being with our family and grandchildren. Life is there to be lived and to make the most of what is on offer. Have a lovely week!

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    1. Hi Sue - I tried running again several times over the years (and after being inspired by you) but it's just not something I seem to be good at. Walking at a good pace for an hour a day feels like a good compromise and that I'm taking care of my health while also enjoying my surroundings.
      I've also come to see that retirement doesn't have to be about doing big stuff - it can be comprised of lots of little activities that make up a bigger picture of contentment. It's such a lovely stage of life.

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  2. I used to run in my school days, and I thoroughly enjoyed it, especially the cross-country race. Now, at my age, I am in no position to do that, and I restrict myself to long walks. However, I am glad that my son in Sydney has taken to running quite passionately. After taking part in the City 2 Surf race last month, he planning to attempt the half-marathon.
    I am not a dabbler now. Probably, after I retire in about a year and a half, I will get a lot more of time to indulge in those small pleasures.

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    1. Hi Pradeep - I always envy runners - they make it look so effortless, whereas when I run it feels hot, sweaty, awkward, and uncomfortable.....but I do enjoy a good walk, so all is not lost. I'm glad your son is making the most of the Aussie weather and enjoying racing in the City 2 Surf - something we have in Western Australia too.

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  3. Isn't it good how we're all different and we find our happy place in the world as we get older and have some more time to dabble? I love reading, walking, riding my ebike and lots of other things too, it just adds a lot of joy to my life to do the things that make me happy. As you have found!

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    1. Hi Deb - I'm so glad you get it. I find that these simple little pleasures are the things I was squeezing into my life between all my work, volunteering, and other obligations. Now they're the main part of my week and I love the variety and discovering new little interests as they arise - and seeing others doing it too.

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  4. I love the validation for living a relaxed life! I too love to be unbusy and go at a slower pace. Hearing the earth’s sounds just resonates with me - cup of coffee on the patio is sheer bliss. Southern heat and all . 😃 love your writing

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    1. Hi Becky thank you so much for enjoying what I write and for affirming exactly how I feel. It's such a blessing to be able to live this quiet, joyful life at a pace that suits me. I'm happy to let the world rush by while I sip my coffee and read a good book - it feels like a reward for all my hard work over the years. :)

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  5. Your dabbling lifestyle brought the "6 doctors" to mind - sun, water, air, nutrition, exercise, rest. I was never a fan of busy before retirement but there was punching the clock and like you, squeezing the small pleasures in between the have-tos. I don't think of myself as artistic but I am creative in that a recipe is often just a suggestion & the flower beds take on a little different configuration each year. The kitchen & garden are my happy places where I can lose myself. Like you, I love the written word. I threaten to write a book titled Sh%! My Mom Said in the spirit of Sh*t My Dad Says by Justin Halpern. Like - I didn't tell anyone about that until I could laugh like everyone else - when she drove into the house. I'm never bored in retirement even in my unbusy life.

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    1. Hi Mona - I'd buy that book! My mum has some classics that come out of her mouth and my husband can quote them back to me! And yes, I think we were sold a lie about what's artistic when we were in school. I may not be a portrait painter, but I can still find joy in making something pretty - I love that I found that out now while I have the time to play around. I don't miss punching the clock, or juggling lots of balls to keep everything running smoothly. I have so few demands on my time these days and I'm grateful for that every day.

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  6. I am definitely a dabbler and am usually up to trying anything once; more if I end up liking it.

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    1. You're getting an early start in the delights of dabbling Joanne - finding little things (like your family hikes) that bring you joy - that's what makes life sweet.

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  7. Hi Leanne, another dabbler here. My dabbling includes reading, sewing, baking, gardening and occasionally flower arranging but as much as I enjoy all these activities, I don't have an all consuming passion for one so I flit from one to another as the mood takes me. The only thing I do every day is go for a walk which is usually a solo activity as I see it as some quiet time for me.

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    1. Hi Elizabeth - I think we would get along well IRL - each of those dabblings sound lovely - and a solo walk each day is so good for the soul. I feel like it connects me with God, with nature, with my community, and with myself - it gives me time to let things drift through my brain without feeling like they're churning in my head.

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  8. I too am a dabbler. Like you, I've found a number of things that bring me joy on a daily or weekly or monthly basis. This morning I went solo shelling at one of our beaches - it's one of the things I really enjoy. After the storm and low tide, just after full moon, lots of shells! Now to play with them in crafting.
    I too have never been a runner. My hubby was when I met him, as were all his friends, and even my best friend. I joked that my pre-nuptial said, "I will not run". But I've found I enjoy cardio drumming. And beach walks.
    Like you, I fill my days with things I enjoy... and that is a wonderful place to be.

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    1. Hi Pat - I've really enjoyed seeing all the crafts you've been developing over the last few years. I think (like me) you were always caught up in the practical, logical world and never realized how lovely it is to find small creative pursuits. To make something that is pretty and brings a smile is a gift that retirement has brought me - and doing little things with great joy is a lost art in our bustling world.

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  9. Hi Leanne. I love the connections that I made through blogging. That being said, I don't want to make the commitment needed to stay up with other bloggers. I do enjoy reading your blog and some others. I like to read about what other people my age are doing. It makes me feel significant. I also do love dabbling in art. I feel the need to be creative. Thank you for sharing. It's always a pleasure to read your posts. xx Christina Daggett

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    1. Hi Christina - I certainly appreciate you staying in touch with me while you're not blogging. It's definitely hard keeping up with a lot of blogs and there comes a point where you have to be a little bit discerning. I tend to follow other bloggers who are leading full lives but not bragging about all that they're accomplishing - just women getting on with enjoying this second stage of life. I hope your tree art is going well still and I look forward to seeing it when you finish. x

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  10. Hi Leanne, fellow dabbler here. I think that being a dabbler just means that we are positive people who are passionate about experiencing life and we aren't fixed on, or even pursuaded by perfection. I also have a long list of things I am not, but somehow, my days are still filled with joy and I am satisfied with life the way I live it.

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    1. Hi Suzanne - I really enjoyed wording each section with "I'm not....but...." because it rang true to me that you don't have to be an expert or great at things to be able to find joy. I realized a long time ago that I'm not a person who pursues a single grand "passion" - I feel more connected with myself and less stressed when I dabble in and out of lots of different interests - it allows me to let things go when they've served their time and to pick up new ones when they catch my eye. It's a lovely way to live.

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  11. Hi Leanne, I'm most definitely a dabbler too! Like you I enjoy my blog and have done since I started it in September 2012 - nearly 11 Years ago now! I've dabbled in mosaics. I crochet. I've done tapestries and long stitches and I've knitted. I've studied photography, and I've discovered I enjoy art - ink and watercolours mostly. I have dreams to make something of my art but no time at the moment so who knows what is ahead. I think it's a wonderful time of life to discover what we like to do and what we're good at. It can be such a surprise! Hope you're having a great week! xo

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    1. Hi again Leanne, this is Min (Write of the Middle). I'm at Mum's at the moment and on my laptop and forgot to log into Google - so it comes up as anonymous.

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    2. Hi Min - I hope your mum is well and that you're finding time for your art while you spend time with her. I've loved watching your art journey progress as you've found what you enjoy and what is less important. You have a real gift with your watercolours and I'm so glad you're sharing them with us as you perfect your skills. Dabbling can lead to all sorts of new interests. :)

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  12. Inarticulate well being is our goal in life, tbh. I did not know about neurographic art, I had to google. Interesting. It might be something for my Wednesday Club. I did not know that about vespers [post hip replacement so I feel that's a handy fact for motobike riders to know as they age (that they don't have to give up completely!) . However, yesterday I was talking to a friend who got upset at work about everything she hadn't done and her boss and said she needed to think about everything she had done. I told her I was having to remind my sister to stop letting her depression focus on what she wasn't managing and start patting herself on the back for all that she was managing to do each day. So, I like very much that while you open with I'm no a...you finish with a detailed 'success' story of what you are. I think it's a really good way to focus your mind. That coincidently ties in with a pep talk I gave to a friend yesterday (I am as annoying in real life as I am online - ha!)

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    1. Hi Lydia - your last sentence made me laugh. I think we all need friends who give us considered pep talks. I had my MIL over for tea and she is the most miserable, negative old person I know - she's allowed life (and depression) to sour her and when she left it felt like a grey cloud had lifted. I NEVER want to be that person!
      I don't think we can be good at everything, but there are so many little things that bring us joy if we look for them - focusing on those and having a grateful heart change our whole perspective - life is really good when we look at the big picture - so why focus on the little annoyances?
      As far as neurographic art goes, I wrote a post on it (the link is where I mention it in this post) - and it includes a great youtube "tutorial". It's quite a fun thing to try and doing it on thicker paper with some kids' paints to colour in the circle sections makes for a really pretty picture.

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  13. I feel the same way about running. It's the most effective exercise I've found for getting in shape, but I loathe it. I keep starting a running practice, then slacking off, then feeling guilty, then starting again. I should probably do myself a favor and let it go.

    I'm also a dabbler, but I struggle with the idea that I have to be good at something and be productive. Gah!

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    1. Hi Janet - I SO wanted to be a runner. I love seeing women running along the path with that easy gait.....but I just can't do it. I'm not sure if it's a skill or something you get better at, but I've never mastered it and just decided that I'd rather do something I enjoy and get joy from than something that makes me miserable - maybe I'm getting older and wiser (or just older and slacker???)

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  14. I loved reading this Leanne, it's made me think that when I retire, I would love to be a dabbler, having a go at a bit of this and a bit of that, depending on what I felt like on the day. My days of being competitive are over now. I really can't even be bothered with being competitive with myself now.

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    1. Hi Jenn - I think once we stop competing with ourselves and others we find a deeper sense of contentment - and it frees us up to dabble with no pressure. You're going to love retirement when you're finally ready for it :)

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  15. I love this post, Leanne! And I love how you choose to just be yourself and live life on your terms. I'm definitely a dabbler too. I've always had too many interests which means there isn't time to become an expert at any of them! Now with my attempt to change career I have to at least become good at my chosen activity (graphic design) but other than that I'm enjoying dabbling with guitars, cameras and whatnot, and try to not put pressure on myself with it. With all the troubles I've had this year I've relaxed a lot about less important things and I'm determined to just enjoy what there is to enjoy in life.

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    1. Hi Susanne - I love your photography - it's a real gift that you have. I'm sure all the other things you dabble in are done really well too. I'm less skilled in any of my dabblings, but they still bring me joy. I think once I took the pressure off myself to have to do things pefectly (or even really well) I found more freedom to try new stuff and add it into my quieter days.

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  16. I really enjoyed reading about your dabblings, Leanne. As we've discussed previously, I am in the process of finding the right balance for me between going all out and kicking back. Dabbling feels good to me, but then every once in awhile I miss the feeling of really pushing myself at something. I have no doubt I'll find my sweet spot with time. And then it might move again, but that's okay too. Part of the joy of midlife and retirement is that you aren't locked into any one speed.

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    1. Hi Christie - you're so right about the freedom we have these days to do what we like at whatever speed we enjoy. My daughter commented the other day that this is the first time I've been able to do life in a way that gives me time to think deeply about what's important to "me" rather than what I need to do for others or just to get through life. It's opened my eyes to what a gift this time of life is, but also what a challenge it is to figure out what is "me" and what is just an expectation I've lived with all this time.

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  17. I loved reading this Leanne, and it summed lots of the many parts of you very well....I am not a..... I admit it took me a few goes for me to write "I am an artist" because my picture of what an artist is and me were ill-matched. It was part of my growth in art that I realised I was as entitled to use the term as others. However, black & white thinking me needed some convincing. I am much more at ease with a little bit of this and a bit of that creatively these days: pattern making, paint spreading on paper, designing challenges for me, mandala making and admiring the works of others like you and Min. We are all different but we are all connected creatively. And a blog is a creative space! Thank you so much for linking your blog post to WWandPics this week. See you next week too, I hope, for the link up at Denyse’s Words and Pics! Always appreciative of our connection via blogging! Denyse.

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    1. Hi Denyse - I think we assume that only people who do something amazing get to hold a title - I'm discovering that you can be many things and there are no rules as to what makes you "an artist" or whatever. If we feel creative, then we're being artistic - others may not agree, but it's not about them and they can move on to whatever they want to be and leave us to enjoy our happy places :)

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  18. Hi Leanne, isn't it nice not to have to be a professional at all the things we dabble in. Retirement is a gift. I'm glad you get to enjoy it. It looks like you are having a great time. Continue on! :)

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    1. Hi Marsha - once I realized I didn't need to be really good at the things I dabbled in, it took the pressure off and I got to enjoy them for the sheer pleasure of having lots of little things that fill my days. I think retirement is another one of those best kept secrets (like grandchildren!)

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  19. Hi Leanne, I like variety and have dabbled in different activities for fun. Keep enjoying retirement and dabbling :) Thank you for your weekend coffee share.

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    1. Hi Natalie - I enjoy reading about all your activities - you're more 'out and about' than I am, but still doing lots of varied activities - I think that's the key for me.

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  20. That's so cool that you were featured. I use to be into running but I am not very good at it. I liked it because it was a cheap way to stay in shape but then I stopped one season because it was too hot. Since then I've been more of a gym goer because I like AC.

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    1. Hi Julie - it was lovely to be featured - kind of a little extra validation for what I write. I've never been a runner or a gym goer (probably because I don't do either well) so I'll stick with my walking and see how I go from there :)

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